I think I'll start the understanding bf / gf / spouse thread ........not that I'm ( belch) Dr. Phil ........
It is difficult for the civilians to understand what we do , and in some cases even to take it seriously as a career .....
We don't dig ditches , we don't run into burning buildings , we don't make or sign trade agreements or constitutions ......
We do have to hone our craft , rehearse , experiment , wear our herats on our sleeves , stick our necks out and in general be vunerable to the slings and arrows ........
As is true of many things it is much easier to cut down what is not understood , declare it foreign and not right , than it is to do the work it may take to understand .........
a partner that is with you all the way is a great asset and not to be taken for granted .......
i believe that to have a good relationship you really have to work at it , and that everything about it is priority and a process
nothing has to be easy .
you yourself have to be right first or the relationship cannot be right
i personally don't know about gay and other types of relationships ; I use to reject them as invalid , but no longer do so , since who am i to decide such things , and if you really are a peace lover you should be looking for bridges not fences .....
speaking of plain vanilla hetero type things , i like to remind the ladies that the art of being a lady means leaving the men with the impression that they are in charge .......
i just paraphrased either Catherine of Aragon or the french queen of that era ... not sure which but that kind of hip thinking on the ladies part has apparently been around for awhile .....
i hope this can be a fun thread
as always i don't care that much if we wander .....as always don't launch personal attacks , it's not the way ......
It is difficult for the civilians to understand what we do , and in some cases even to take it seriously as a career .....
We don't dig ditches , we don't run into burning buildings , we don't make or sign trade agreements or constitutions ......
We do have to hone our craft , rehearse , experiment , wear our herats on our sleeves , stick our necks out and in general be vunerable to the slings and arrows ........
As is true of many things it is much easier to cut down what is not understood , declare it foreign and not right , than it is to do the work it may take to understand .........
a partner that is with you all the way is a great asset and not to be taken for granted .......
i believe that to have a good relationship you really have to work at it , and that everything about it is priority and a process
nothing has to be easy .
you yourself have to be right first or the relationship cannot be right
i personally don't know about gay and other types of relationships ; I use to reject them as invalid , but no longer do so , since who am i to decide such things , and if you really are a peace lover you should be looking for bridges not fences .....
speaking of plain vanilla hetero type things , i like to remind the ladies that the art of being a lady means leaving the men with the impression that they are in charge .......
i just paraphrased either Catherine of Aragon or the french queen of that era ... not sure which but that kind of hip thinking on the ladies part has apparently been around for awhile .....
i hope this can be a fun thread
as always i don't care that much if we wander .....as always don't launch personal attacks , it's not the way ......
Posté Mon 03 Mar 08 @ 9:12 am
okay it's a sucky thread or it's monday ...........
Posté Mon 03 Mar 08 @ 2:30 pm
wildcountryclub
cause it's monday.
mine is understanding:
she understands the stresses.
she understands the hours
she understands that i have to practice
she understands that after 16 years of headphones, monitors, and loud clubs and radio stations, my hearing is going
she understands that i have to be everyone's best bud or flirt with the girls
she understands that if i am flirting seriously then i'm planning on bringing her something to play with as well
she understands that if i wanted a real job i would have found one by now
she understands that when we buy a house i get my own room for a studio
she understands that i can't live without her
she understands that for all my faults she still loves me
she's quite a woman.
mine is understanding:
she understands the stresses.
she understands the hours
she understands that i have to practice
she understands that after 16 years of headphones, monitors, and loud clubs and radio stations, my hearing is going
she understands that i have to be everyone's best bud or flirt with the girls
she understands that if i am flirting seriously then i'm planning on bringing her something to play with as well
she understands that if i wanted a real job i would have found one by now
she understands that when we buy a house i get my own room for a studio
she understands that i can't live without her
she understands that for all my faults she still loves me
she's quite a woman.
Posté Mon 03 Mar 08 @ 3:08 pm
yeah i have the hearing going prob myself , exacerbated by years of drums/ bands .........
btw i almost never exacerbate ......
wild you have yerself quite a babe it sounds like
i can't believe this is me ....but here goes ......I think we have started seriously down the path of reconciliation......??!!
she spent the weekend ? even when we did argue it wasn't the usual brutal stuff of previously ?? she said she doesn't want to divorce ??!!!!
we have a appointment for counseling next saturday ?? we have a date for wed night ??? she said she will move back nearby to aplace i like and we will have 2 dates a week and a counseling session , do that for 90 days and see if we can't get back under the same roof !!?? i'm so glad this is happening , but it has been tough on me getting to this place .........
somebody cue up love is so hard on the knees .........
happy inspite of it all Chuck ........dad's right ....nothing has to be easy ........
btw i almost never exacerbate ......
wild you have yerself quite a babe it sounds like
i can't believe this is me ....but here goes ......I think we have started seriously down the path of reconciliation......??!!
she spent the weekend ? even when we did argue it wasn't the usual brutal stuff of previously ?? she said she doesn't want to divorce ??!!!!
we have a appointment for counseling next saturday ?? we have a date for wed night ??? she said she will move back nearby to aplace i like and we will have 2 dates a week and a counseling session , do that for 90 days and see if we can't get back under the same roof !!?? i'm so glad this is happening , but it has been tough on me getting to this place .........
somebody cue up love is so hard on the knees .........
happy inspite of it all Chuck ........dad's right ....nothing has to be easy ........
Posté Mon 03 Mar 08 @ 3:38 pm
DJ Marcel_1
"If life were easy.......everyone would be good at it"
Sgt Kennedy
1BN P.P.C.L.I
Sgt Kennedy
1BN P.P.C.L.I
Posté Mon 03 Mar 08 @ 3:48 pm
better call me not so good at it chuck ....... at some point b4 i'm say 100 can i lose all the drama and emotional roller coasters ?? no ?? thank you God ....
Posté Mon 03 Mar 08 @ 4:38 pm
wildcountryclub
not only is she a great woman, she's a great mom for our son and she's a cop... i tend not to piss off anyone with a badge and a gun..
Posté Mon 03 Mar 08 @ 6:18 pm
Tear Em 'Up
chucknorrisyouwimps wrote :
i almost never exacerbate ......
Then why the thick glasses Chuck?
Deaf, Blind, and lonely it sometimes seems to be our lot in life......PJ and I are going through a tough time too...too many hours in front of this PC....setting up mixes...listening to mixes...talking to people I have come to be very close friends with, but have never laid eyes on. Listening to music, downloading music....I do not need to go on....
hell my ex has me back in court...again(3rd time)....wanting me to give up custody of my girls....but not pay any of the ten years worth of back child support she owes......
can't live with them....and they will not club us to death in our sleep.....Tito, bring me a tissue
Posté Mon 03 Mar 08 @ 7:17 pm
Diamond G
Don't mind at all.
Great topic.
I've been DJ'ing since '83 and had my share of relationships go sour because of DJ'ing (getting home late in the evening, working every weekend, etc).
But DJ'ing has been like a brother. DJ'ing has helped me pull some of those chicks I thought were so high above my league they were untouchable, it has has given me some of the most memorable experiences I have ever lived through (you all know what goes on in DJ booths with horny ladies, music blasting, and liquor flowing), it has allowed me to make Bridegrooms' happiest day of their lives even happier, it has even helped me stay afloat through some hard financial times when jobs were hard to come by, especially through college.
I now have the fortune of having a second career (Registered Nurse), but it has been a double edge sword because the girls I've been with since tell me I should stick to "the better career [RN]". Needless to say, I've told them to "Kiss my A$$. It's either both careers or DJ'ing."
If someone would have told me when I was 12 yo that there were girls who actually liked threesomes, I would have thought they were crazy, but now I know better. So to put it in the words of Bret Michaels (lead vocalist of Rock band Poison);
"Rock 'n' roll (in my case, DJ'ing) is an insatiable bitch goddess, but I love her. And I'm just looking for that one woman in my life to participate in that threesome."
THEY'RE OUT THERE, BELIEVE ME. You just have to learn to keep everything in balance once you find "The one". That skill usually comes with a little bit of maturity.
Peace
Great topic.
I've been DJ'ing since '83 and had my share of relationships go sour because of DJ'ing (getting home late in the evening, working every weekend, etc).
But DJ'ing has been like a brother. DJ'ing has helped me pull some of those chicks I thought were so high above my league they were untouchable, it has has given me some of the most memorable experiences I have ever lived through (you all know what goes on in DJ booths with horny ladies, music blasting, and liquor flowing), it has allowed me to make Bridegrooms' happiest day of their lives even happier, it has even helped me stay afloat through some hard financial times when jobs were hard to come by, especially through college.
I now have the fortune of having a second career (Registered Nurse), but it has been a double edge sword because the girls I've been with since tell me I should stick to "the better career [RN]". Needless to say, I've told them to "Kiss my A$$. It's either both careers or DJ'ing."
If someone would have told me when I was 12 yo that there were girls who actually liked threesomes, I would have thought they were crazy, but now I know better. So to put it in the words of Bret Michaels (lead vocalist of Rock band Poison);
"Rock 'n' roll (in my case, DJ'ing) is an insatiable bitch goddess, but I love her. And I'm just looking for that one woman in my life to participate in that threesome."
THEY'RE OUT THERE, BELIEVE ME. You just have to learn to keep everything in balance once you find "The one". That skill usually comes with a little bit of maturity.
Peace
Posté Mon 03 Mar 08 @ 8:42 pm
uuuuhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh , ok
i was kinda thinking in terms of more plain vanilla things i think like wildcountryclub posted ....the problems the job can impose and how your significant udder handles it ???
don't you just love when people talk about there sex pwoblems Lehwy ??
i was kinda thinking in terms of more plain vanilla things i think like wildcountryclub posted ....the problems the job can impose and how your significant udder handles it ???
don't you just love when people talk about there sex pwoblems Lehwy ??
Posté Wed 05 Mar 08 @ 11:48 am
Tim Bennett
I have these problems and I don't even gig much.
My wife hates...
That I have to practice
That I have to DL music
Tag it, Key it and back it all up (several times)
But she wants me to get my a$$ out there and make some money at the bars or parties.
I love that gal. :)
My wife hates...
That I have to practice
That I have to DL music
Tag it, Key it and back it all up (several times)
But she wants me to get my a$$ out there and make some money at the bars or parties.
I love that gal. :)
Posté Thu 06 Mar 08 @ 10:03 am